Have you ever seen the movie 'Groundhog Day' where Bill Murray is caught in a time loop and has to keep reliving the same day over and over again? And do you ever feel you can relate to such a concept? We, Colin and Sara, are all for living with appreciation for the great life we have, but that doesn't mean we aren't human where it can feel stale and 'groundhog day-ish' at times. Call it a 'funk' if you will, hit us of late, and also left us unsure of what we wanted to talk about this week. We're usually overflowing with ideas based on experiences and what other people are talking about. We thought maybe it’s the nice summer weather lowering our enthusiasm, or having recently spent time with family visiting and getting out of the routine, or maybe it’s just a creative block. But the reality is - maybe it’s just life?!
During these times we might be more tempted to look outside of ourselves for inspiration and see on social media, and online in general, that everyone else seems to be living fabulous lives. We may see elaborate trips, success stories, big promotions, exotic homes, fancy jobs, and the splash goes on. And then we look at - or more accurately compare - our own life and don't see those shiny things. However, if it was always exciting, new, fresh, and fun, it wouldn’t be life.
Brooke Castillo from the Life Coach School talks about “50-50” - our lives are 50% positive emotions and 50% negative emotions. This actually makes so much sense, but yet we're often trying to convince ourselves that most of our life should be 'happy, happy, joy, joy' when this is virtually unattainable and unsustainable. This doesn't even account for all of the other things that we face such as illness, disease, death, loss, heartbreak, disappointment, etc. This “50-50” is just our normal every day lives.
Even people who reach a very big goal, or receive a huge recognition of achievement, will not be able to hold onto this extreme positive emotion for too long. We've all been there. The excitement the day we graduated medical school was quickly replaced by the anxiety of residency and all that comes with it. The relief from completing residency is replaced by worry about student loans and the responsibility of being a practising physician. “50-50” steps in and ensures that we won’t have too much positive emotion to even the playing field of emotions.
Knowing this is somewhat freeing. We don’t have to fight to always feel upbeat and motivated - we can allow ourselves to feel that things suck sometimes. Just know if you can relate to any of this, you’re definitely not alone. We too have our groundhog days and feel like 'is this it?', but thankfully, it usually doesn't last long when we take a moment to be grateful. There's definitely a reason its called practising gratitude.
“Learn to appreciate small quiet moments, the ocean, a walk on the beach, time alone, your health, your strength, your smile, your life.” ~ Germany Kent